Test Result
High Intensity / Borderline Pattern (High Indications)
“You are currently navigating a storm of intense emotions and relationship challenges that likely feel overwhelming and exhausting on a daily basis.”
Your overall pattern
Your responses align with a High Intensity or Borderline Pattern. This suggests you are carrying a heavy load of emotional pain. You likely feel that your emotions are not just reactions, but tsunamis that knock you over without warning. You may feel desperate to stop the pain, leading to impulsive actions or intense conflicts in relationships.
This pattern is often characterized by a profound "fear of disappearance"—a terrifying sense that if you are alone, or if someone leaves, you will cease to exist. Please know: You are not broken. You are a burn survivor in a world of people with intact skin; things that feel like a light touch to others feel like agony to you.
"This pain is real, but it is not permanent. The brain is neuroplastic—it can relearn how to soothe itself, just as a wound can heal."
Typical behaviors
- Frantic Efforts: You may text, call, or plead desperately to keep someone from leaving (real or imagined).
- Splitting: You might view people as "Perfect Saviors" one day and "Evil Traitors" the next.
- Identity Void: You may feel a chronic sense of emptiness or "not existing."
Strengths in this pattern
- Key: Resilience of Spirit
To survive this level of emotional pain requires immense strength. You are a survivor. - Key: Intuitive Connection
You can likely read the emotional tone of a room instantly.
Common pitfalls
The cycle of pain:
- Self-Sabotage: Just when things are going well, you might destroy them because you fear the inevitable crash.
- The "Bad Person" Narrative: You may believe you are fundamentally "bad" or "toxic." This is a symptom, not a fact.
"Reflection point: Just because I feel abandoned doesn't mean I am abandoned. Feelings are not facts."
What you can do next
Small actions you can start today
- Ice Dive: If you feel an explosion of emotion/urge to self-harm, hold an ice cube or splash freezing water on your face. It resets your nervous system.
- The 24-Hour Rule: Make a pact with yourself: "I will not make any life-changing decisions (breakups, quitting) while in the Red Zone."
Longer-term directions
- Seek DBT Therapy: Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is the "gold standard" for this pattern. It works. It teaches you the manual for your emotional system.
- Self-Compassion: Treat yourself as you would a wounded animal—with gentleness, not punishment.
Disclaimer and when to seek help
Important: This test is for educational purposes only and is not a diagnosis. Your score indicates a high level of distress. We strongly recommend showing these results to a mental health professional. If you feel unsafe or have urges to hurt yourself, please contact a local crisis line or go to an emergency room immediately. There is help, and there is hope.