Your relationship with yourself
Your results indicate a "Balanced but Situational" self-esteem. Most of the time, you feel pretty good about yourself—especially when things are going well at work or in your relationships. You are functional, capable, and generally positive.
However, your sense of worth might be "conditional." You may feel like your value rises and falls with your latest achievement or social interaction. If you make a mistake or receive criticism, your inner critic might wake up and make you doubt your abilities for a while before you recover.
Your typical patterns
- In everyday life: You function well and appear confident, but you may have a running commentary in your head checking if you are "doing it right."
- Under stress: You might oscillate between "I can do this" and "I'm in over my head."
- In relationships: You are generally secure, but a harsh comment from a partner or friend can hurt you deeply and linger for days.
Your strengths
- Adaptability: You are sensitive to feedback, which often makes you a conscientious worker and a considerate friend.
- Growth Mindset: Because you care about performance, you are often motivated to improve and learn new skills.
- Empathy: Your own moments of self-doubt help you understand and relate to others who are struggling.
Common pitfalls
- The "Performance Trap": You may fall into the trap of believing "I am only as good as my last success."
- Over-thinking: You might spend too much mental energy replaying conversations or worrying about how you were perceived.
Your worth is an inherent fact, not a fluctuating stock market price that changes with your daily performance.
What you can do next
- Separate "Who I am" from "What I do": Try to finish this sentence: "I am a valuable person, even if I am not productive today, because..."
- Practice Self-Compassion: When you make a mistake, imagine what you would say to a close friend who did the same thing. Say that to yourself.
- Track your "Internal Wins": At the end of the day, note one thing you did that you are proud of, that has nothing to do with external praise (e.g., "I stayed calm when I was tired").
Disclaimer
This test is for educational purposes and self-reflection only. It is not a medical diagnosis. If you find that your fluctuations in self-esteem are causing significant anxiety or affecting your daily life, seeking support from a therapist can be very helpful.