Test Result
Mild to Moderate Concerns
“You generally function well, but you may occasionally dim your own light or over-extend yourself to keep the peace in your relationships.”
Your overall pattern: Mild to Moderate Concerns
Your results indicate emerging patterns of self-sacrifice. You are likely a very caring and empathetic person—the kind of friend who is always there when things go wrong. However, this virtue sometimes tips into a burden. You may find yourself saying "yes" when you really mean "no," or worrying about others' problems slightly more than they worry about them themselves.
You haven't completely lost your identity, but the edges are blurring. You might notice that your stress levels are often tied to how "happy" or "stable" your key relationships feel at any given moment.
"You are allowed to take up space. You are allowed to have needs that are inconvenient for others."
Typical behaviors
- The Peacemaker: You often swallow your minor grievances to avoid "rocking the boat."
- The Helper: You feel a pang of guilt if you aren't being useful to someone.
Strengths in this pattern
- High Empathy: You are intuitive and sensitive to the emotional climate of a room.
- Reliability: People know they can count on you, which builds strong social bonds.
Common pitfalls
Where the balance shifts:
- Resentment Creep: You may silently accumulate "emotional debt"—feeling that you give more than you receive, which can lead to sudden outbursts or withdrawal.
- Validation Seeking: You might rely a bit too heavily on praise or gratitude to feel good about your day.
"Reflection point: If you stopped being 'helpful' for a week, would you still feel valuable?"
What you can do next
Small actions you can start today
- The 'Let it Ring' Rule: Next time a non-urgent crisis arises for a friend, wait 15 minutes before responding. Notice the anxiety, but don't act on it immediately.
- Express a Preference: This week, when asked "what do you want for dinner/movie?", give a specific answer instead of saying "whatever you want."
Longer-term directions
- Practice setting small "soft" boundaries. For example, "I can help you with this, but only for an hour."
Disclaimer and when to seek help
This test describes patterns of relating and is not a medical diagnosis. If feelings of resentment or anxiety are affecting your daily life, consider speaking with a counselor.