Codependency Test: Are You Helping Others or Losing Yourself?
Relationships
Take this free Codependency Test to explore your relationship patterns. Discover if your supportive nature has crossed into self-sacrifice. Instant, private results.
Do you often feel like you are the emotional anchor for everyone around you, yet you are drifting without an anchor of your own? Many of us pride ourselves on being "good helpers," "loyal partners," or "fixers." But there is a quiet, exhausting line where caring for others transforms into carrying them—and losing yourself in the process.
This Codependency Test is designed to be a gentle mirror. It helps you distinguish between healthy interdependence (where two whole people support each other) and codependency (where one person’s identity is consumed by the other’s needs). You are not broken; you may just be loving in a way that hurts you.
Relationships are complex, and it is often hard to see the water we are swimming in. Taking this assessment offers:
Codependency is not a clinical diagnosis; it is a behavioral pattern. Historically, the term came from addiction studies, but today psychologists recognize it as a broader relationship dynamic affecting parents, partners, friends, and caregivers.
This test explores questions you might be asking yourself:
This assessment is grounded in the theoretical frameworks established by authoritative scales such as the Friel Co-Dependency Assessment Inventory (FCAI) and the Spann-Fischer Codependency Scale. It moves beyond simple stereotypes to measure the depth of your emotional entanglement.
Our 20-item instrument triangulates your score based on three core dimensions:
The test consists of 20 questions and typically takes about 3–5 minutes to complete.
You will rate your agreement with various statements on a scale from 1 (Strongly Disagree) to 7 (Strongly Agree).
Tip: Try not to overthink. Your immediate, gut-level response is usually the most accurate reflection of your true feelings.
We use a cumulative scoring logic that places your responses on a severity continuum. There are no "wrong" answers, only indicators of where your current patterns sit on the spectrum of independence versus enmeshment.
This test is especially helpful if you:
Please consider seeking professional help instead if:
We don't just give you a number; we provide a narrative to help you understand your relational style. Based on your score, you will receive one of the following four profiles:
Your result page will also include:
A high score does not mean you are "sick" or incapable of love. It simply means your current strategy for connection is costing you too much. Patterns are learned, which means they can be unlearned.
We believe in "micro-boundaries." Your results will guide you on how to start small—like delaying a "yes" by five minutes—before tackling bigger relationship shifts.
To ensure accuracy, this test draws upon concepts found in the following authoritative resources:
Please Read Carefully:
This Codependency Test is designed for educational and self-exploration purposes only. It is not a diagnostic tool and does not replace a clinical evaluation by a licensed mental health professional. Relationships are nuanced, and no online test can capture the full complexity of your life. If you are experiencing significant distress, anxiety, or relationship turmoil, we strongly recommend consulting a therapist or counselor.
You relate to others with a healthy balance of connection and autonomy, viewing yourself as a complete person rather than a half looking for a whole.
You generally function well, but you may occasionally dim your own light or over-extend yourself to keep the peace in your relationships.
You often act as the emotional anchor for others, but the weight of their needs is beginning to submerge your own identity.