Test Result
Pragma (The Practical Lover)
“You view love as a partnership that must make sense—driven by logic, compatibility, and shared life goals.”
Your overall pattern: The Practical Lover (Pragma)
You approach love with the same intelligence and foresight you apply to your career or life planning. You believe that love is not just a feeling, but a choice—and a choice that should be made wisely. You are looking for a teammate who fits your life goals, shares your values, and brings stability rather than chaos.
Some might call you picky, but you call it being realistic. You know that passion fades, but a shared mortgage and parenting philosophy are forever. You are willing to wait for the person who checks the boxes because you know that a mismatch is a waste of time.
"Love is not just a feeling; it is an act of your will and your intellect."
Typical behaviors
- The "Checklist": You subconsciously (or consciously) screen dates for criteria like job stability, family background, and future plans.
- Rational Decisions: If a relationship isn't working on a practical level, you can end it, even if it hurts emotionally.
- Planning: You show love by organizing, supporting your partner's career, and building a secure future together.
Strengths in this pattern
- Reliability: You are an incredibly supportive partner who shows up when it counts.
- Low Risk of Divorce: Because you choose partners so carefully based on compatibility, your relationships tend to be very durable.
Common pitfalls
Logic can suffocate emotion.
- Dryness: You might treat dates like job interviews, killing the romantic vibe.
- Undervaluing Chemistry: You might dismiss someone who could be a great match because they don't look "perfect" on paper, or stay with someone boring just because they do.
"Reflection point: Am I looking for a partner, or am I hiring for a position?"
What you can do next
Small actions you can start today
- On your next date or evening with your partner, ban "logistical" talk (work, money, chores) for at least one hour.
- Allow yourself to make one "irrational" gesture of affection, like buying a gift just because.
Longer-term directions
- Try to broaden your "checklist." Distinguish between essential values (must-haves) and superficial traits (nice-to-haves).
- meaningful connection often happens in the unexpected. Allow room for surprise in your life plan.
Disclaimer and when to seek help
This test describes behavioral patterns for educational purposes only. If you feel unable to connect emotionally or find yourself constantly dissatisfied with "imperfect" partners, consider speaking with a counselor.