Love Styles Test – Explore Your Way of Loving

This relationship test looks at your preferred “love styles” — the patterns in how you usually give and receive love. It uses 24 short items and is designed for adults who want a clearer language for understanding their romantic patterns, whether they are currently in a relationship or not.

By the end, you’ll see your profile across six classic love styles and get a dominant style result, along with suggestions for using that insight to care for yourself and your relationships more wisely.

What can this “love styles test” help you with?

Romantic relationships are confusing for almost everyone. Many people notice that the same patterns show up again and again — falling hard and fast, keeping things casual, staying loyal for a long time, or giving more than they receive — but struggle to explain why.

This test is designed to help you:

• Put words and structure to your patterns of loving, using six well-known love styles from social psychology.
• See how different sides of you — romantic, playful, practical, self-giving, intense, steady — show up together in one relationship.
• Understand what feels natural to you in love and where you might feel stretched, conflicted, or misunderstood.
• Spot some of the strengths and risks that come with your dominant style, including how you tend to handle closeness, conflict, and commitment.
• Use your result as a starting point for reflection or conversation, not as a score of how “good” or “bad” you are at relationships.

What is the “love styles test” about?

At its core, this test is about the ways people love, not whether you love “enough” or “correctly.” It draws on research that suggests people tend to show recognisable patterns in:

• How quickly they fall in love.
• How comfortable they feel with commitment and freedom.
• How they respond when relationships are stressful or uncertain.
• How much they focus on passion, practicality, friendship, or caregiving.

Instead of asking “Is this relationship perfect?” the test is more interested in questions like:

• “Why do I keep getting drawn to the same kind of dynamic?”
• “Why do some approaches to love feel easy for me and others feel exhausting?”
• “Why do I react so strongly in certain situations but not in others?”

Psychology and relationship research do not agree on a single “correct” way to love. What they do offer is useful maps and language so you can better understand your own tendencies and make more informed, compassionate choices.

How is this test designed?

Theory and measurement foundations (short overview)

This love styles test is inspired by John Alan Lee’s colour wheel theory of love and later work such as the Love Attitudes Scale, which describe six distinct but overlapping ways people often experience romantic love: passionate, playful, friendship-based, practical, intense/possessive, and self-giving. These ideas sit within the broader field of social and relationship psychology, alongside models like Sternberg’s triangular theory of love that emphasize intimacy, passion, and commitment.

In practical terms, the test focuses on:

• Your attitudes and tendencies in romantic relationships (how you usually approach love).
• Differences between feeling drawn to intensity vs stability, freedom vs commitment, practicality vs idealism, giving vs receiving.
• How these patterns may show up in everyday situations, not just in abstract theories.

Because this is a self-report questionnaire, your result reflects how you currently see yourself. It is inspired by public research but is not a clinical instrument and is not meant to diagnose any mental health condition.

Which dimensions / types does this test look at?

The test looks at six classic love styles. Your result highlights all six, and then focuses on the one that stands out most for you right now:

• Eros – A passionate, romantic style that values emotional and physical intimacy, intense connection, and a sense of “spark” in love.
• Ludus – A playful, game-oriented style that emphasizes fun, lightness, and freedom, and may be cautious about heavy commitments.
• Storge – A friendship-based, steady style that grows slowly from familiarity, shared life, and long-term loyalty.
• Pragma – A practical, reality-focused style that weighs compatibility, values, goals, and logistics alongside feelings.
• Mania – An emotionally intense, reactive style that can involve strong highs and lows, worry about rejection, and a craving for reassurance.
• Agape – A caring, self-giving style that emphasizes support, sacrifice, and putting a partner’s well-being first.

People rarely fit perfectly into one style. Your profile will likely show a mix, with one or two styles standing out more clearly. That mix is where much of the nuance — and opportunity for growth — lives.

How does this test work in practice?

Number of items and approximate time

This test has 24 items and usually takes around 5–8 minutes to complete for most people. Each question asks how much you agree or disagree with a short statement about how you tend to behave or feel in romantic situations.

Depending on how the test is implemented on this site, you may be able to:

• Complete it in one sitting on desktop or mobile.
• Return to your result later or retake it if your situation changes.

The test is designed for personal reflection and learning. Any information about accounts, data storage, or pricing (if applicable) will be explained by the site itself.

How to answer and what to keep in mind

The items use a rating scale (for example, from “strongly disagree” to “strongly agree”) to capture how much each statement sounds like you. There are no “right” or “wrong” answers here; the goal is to capture your usual patterns, not the idealised version of yourself.

Try to think about your typical behaviour and feelings over time, not just one unusually good or bad relationship. If you are not currently in a relationship, you can answer based on past experiences or how you realistically expect you would respond.

Answer in a way that reflects your everyday patterns as honestly as you can, not the version of you that you feel you “should” be.

If any question feels uncomfortable, you can slow down, take a break, or decide not to answer that item depending on how the test is implemented.

How do we calculate your results? (short version)

Each item belongs to one of the six love styles and contributes to a score for that style. Some items are worded in a way that requires them to be scored in the opposite direction (for example, disagreement indicating more of a trait); these are handled automatically so your results remain consistent.

The system then:

• Aggregates your responses to estimate your relative standing on each of the six love styles.
• Identifies which style is highest for you, and uses that as your dominant style result.
• Presents your scores as a profile (so you can see where each style sits for you, not just the top one).

This love styles test uses a single, complete set of items. It does not use a staged “Pop+Plus” structure; your result is based on your answers to the full 24-item questionnaire.

Who is this test for — and who is it not for?

This test is especially helpful if you:

• Are a general adult or young adult interested in understanding your relationship patterns more clearly.
• Notice repeating themes in your romantic life (falling hard, keeping things light, staying loyal, over-giving, feeling anxious) and want language to describe them.
• Want a gentle, structured way to reflect on what you tend to look for in love — passion, friendship, practicality, intensity, or care.
• Are exploring yourself between relationships and want to think about what you might want to do differently next time.
• Would like a neutral starting point for conversations with a partner, friend, coach, or therapist.

This test is not a substitute for professional help, especially if:

• You have been experiencing strong emotional pain (such as ongoing sadness, anxiety, or hopelessness) for a long time.
• You struggle with self-harm thoughts, suicidal thoughts, or urges to hurt yourself or someone else.
• You feel trapped in a relationship that is emotionally, physically, or sexually abusive, or where you fear for your safety.
• You are making major decisions with serious consequences (for example, legal, financial, or medical decisions) and feel very overwhelmed.

In those situations, online tools like this can sometimes highlight concerns, but they cannot assess risk, provide personalised treatment, or keep you safe on their own. It is important to reach out to qualified professionals and, where needed, crisis or emergency services in your area.

If you are in immediate danger or thinking about self-harm, please contact local emergency services or crisis hotlines rather than relying on any online test.

Even if your situation is not an emergency, consider professional support if your relationship patterns feel too heavy or complex to handle alone.

What will you see in your results? (preview)

Your results will not rate you as “good” or “bad” at relationships. Instead, they aim to describe how you tend to love, with an emphasis on both what is helpful and what can be challenging about your style.

For each of the six styles, you will see a short description of how it often shows up in everyday life:

• Eros – Often associated with intense attraction, strong romantic feelings, and a desire for closeness and passion.
• Ludus – Often linked to fun, flirting, and valuing lightness and autonomy more than heavy commitment.
• Storge – Often focused on slow-growing closeness, comfort, shared routines, and seeing a partner as a trusted friend.
• Pragma – Often concerned with long-term fit, values, goals, and whether a relationship can realistically work in everyday life.
• Mania – Often characterised by emotional highs and lows, sensitivity to distance or mixed signals, and a strong need for reassurance.
• Agape – Often expressed through caregiving, sacrifice, and putting a partner’s needs at the centre of your attention.

Your full report will typically include:

• A headline about your dominant love style.
• Brief descriptions of your scores across all six styles, so you can see your overall pattern.
• Short notes on strengths and resources that often come with your style.
• Common traps, misunderstandings, or repeating loops people with similar scores may encounter.
• A few gentle suggestions for small experiments or reflections you might try next.

What can you do with your results?

Treat the result as a mirror, not a verdict

Your love style result is a snapshot, not a life sentence. It reflects how you answered the questions at this moment in your life; it does not define your worth, your capacity to change, or the future of any particular relationship.

Many people find that some parts of their result feel very accurate, while other parts feel less relevant. It is perfectly fine to treat the text as a mirror with some distortion: notice what resonates, set aside what does not, and stay curious rather than judgmental.

Use your result as a starting point for curiosity and small experiments, not as a verdict about who you are allowed to be or how your relationships must look.

Small actions and longer-term directions

Depending on your scores, you might choose to:

• Pick one small pattern that stood out (for example, over-giving, avoiding conflict, idealising partners, or fearing abandonment) and experiment with one tiny change in the next few weeks.
• Use your result as a conversation starter with a partner or close friend: compare styles, talk about which parts feel accurate, and discuss how you might support each other better.
• Reflect on how your love style connects to your history, culture, and previous relationships, and which patterns you want to keep vs gently redesign.
• If you are already in therapy or coaching, bring your result along and talk about how it fits (or doesn’t fit) with what you have been exploring.

If your test touches on painful areas, consider using it as one input among many when deciding whether to seek professional help, not as the sole basis for big decisions.

When might it help to share your result with someone else?

Sharing your love styles result can be helpful when:

• You want a less confrontational way to talk about differences in needs, expectations, or conflict styles with a romantic partner.
• You and a friend or partner are both curious about personal growth and want a shared framework for discussion.
• You are working with a therapist, counselor, or coach and want an extra lens for exploring patterns in your relationships.

You always have the right to set boundaries around what you share. You might decide to:

• Share only certain sections of your result.
• Use the language of love styles to talk about patterns without sharing raw scores or particularly personal examples.
• Treat the result as a neutral third party (“the test suggests I lean toward X”) rather than as a weapon in arguments.

References & further reading

• Love Styles – overview of John Alan Lee’s theory — An open educational chapter explaining the six love styles and how they relate to romantic relationships (source: LibreTexts OER).
• Love Attitudes Scale — A short overview of the Love Attitudes Scale, a questionnaire based on Lee’s six love styles (source: LibreTexts).
• Love styles theory — A concise educational summary of the six love styles and their primary/secondary structure (source: Study & Exam).
• Types of love and the triangular theory — Explains Sternberg’s triangular theory of love (intimacy, passion, commitment) and common relationship types (source: SimplyPsychology).
• Types of love we experience — A layperson-friendly article outlining Sternberg’s theory and different forms of love (source: Verywell Mind).
• Healthy relationships for young adults — Information and tools for recognising healthy vs unhealthy relationship patterns (source: love is respect).
• Healthy relationships guide — A guide to healthy relationship characteristics and red flags (source: National Domestic Violence Hotline).