Relationship Compatibility Test: How Well Do You Fit?
Take our Relationship Compatibility Test to see how your relationship fits across satisfaction, communication, conflict, values, and intimacy patterns.
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Take our Relationship Compatibility Test to see how your relationship fits across satisfaction, communication, conflict, values, and intimacy patterns.
Relationship Compatibility Test: How Well Do You Fit?
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This online relationship test uses 20 questions to sketch how well your current relationship fits your needs across satisfaction, communication, conflict, shared values, and intimacy. It is designed for adults in romantic relationships who want a thoughtful, research-informed check-in rather than a quick social media quiz.
This test helps you put words to how your relationship is working right now, beyond “good” or “bad.” It highlights patterns that often stay vague—like how you talk, how you recover from arguments, and how aligned your values and life plans feel.
At its core, this test looks at how two people are doing together right now: how satisfied you feel, how well you communicate, how you handle disagreements, whether you want similar things from life, and how emotionally and physically close you feel.
Instead of trying to label you as “meant to be” or “doomed,” it focuses on real-life questions such as:
In psychological research, these themes are often studied under umbrellas like relationship satisfaction, dyadic adjustment, and couple communication. This test uses those ideas in a plain-language, self-reflection format that you can take at home, without needing specialized training to understand the results.
The test is broadly inspired by research on relationship quality and satisfaction. Well-known questionnaires such as the Relationship Assessment Scale, the Dyadic Adjustment Scale, and the Couples Satisfaction Index all examine how happy and stable intimate relationships feel, and how partners handle everyday life together. These measures consistently highlight domains like global satisfaction, consensus on important issues, communication, conflict handling, intimacy, and affection.
Drawing on that literature, this test separates relationship compatibility into a small set of practical dimensions that many couples can recognize:
This is a self-report, self-reflection tool. It is not a clinical or diagnostic instrument and should not be used to make medical, legal, or safety decisions on its own.
The Relationship Compatibility Test focuses on five core dimensions:
Relationship Satisfaction
Your overall sense of happiness and fulfilment in the relationship—how glad you are, most days, to be with this person.
Communication Quality
How openly, respectfully, and constructively you and your partner talk about everyday life and harder topics such as feelings, needs, and concerns.
Conflict Resolution
What typically happens when you disagree: whether conflicts escalate, get ignored, or move toward problem-solving and repair.
Shared Values & Life Goals
How far you feel broadly “on the same page” about what matters in life—family, money, lifestyle, work, and the kind of future you are hoping for.
Emotional & Physical Intimacy
How emotionally close you feel, and how well your patterns of affection and physical closeness work for both partners right now.
These dimensions are approximate maps, not rigid boxes. Many people feel “in between” on more than one dimension, and your scores can shift over time as you and your relationship grow.
The full Relationship Compatibility Test has 20 items and typically takes about 5–8 minutes to complete. Most people can complete it in one sitting on a phone or laptop.
If you need to pause, you can usually return to the test as long as you keep the page open or follow the instructions on the test platform. Any sign-in or usage limits (for example, free previews or paid add-ons) will be clearly displayed on the test page itself.
Each item is a statement about relationship situations, and you respond on a 7-point agreement scale (from something like “strongly disagree” to “strongly agree”). There are no “right” or “wrong” answers—your responses simply indicate how often or how strongly a pattern shows up for you.
It helps to answer based on your usual experience over the past few months, not the best or worst moment in your relationship, and not the “ideal version” of yourself that you wish you could be.
Try to answer according to how your relationship typically feels day to day, not how you think it “should” look from the outside.
If any questions feel emotionally heavy, you can slow down, take a break, or choose not to continue. Your emotional safety matters more than finishing the test in one go.
Behind the scenes, each item contributes to one of the five dimensions described above. Your answers are converted into numerical scores, which are then averaged within each dimension to produce a profile of your current relationship experience.
No single number can fully capture your relationship, so the text of the report focuses on patterns, examples, and options rather than scores alone.
This test is especially helpful if you:
This test is not designed to replace professional help. Please do not rely on it alone if:
In those situations, talking directly with a qualified mental health professional, doctor, or trusted support service is much safer than relying on online tests.
If you are in immediate danger or thinking about self-harm, please contact local emergency services or a crisis hotline in your area rather than using online tools as your only source of support.
Your results page does not label you or your partner as “good” or “bad.” Instead, it summarizes how your relationship currently tends to look across the five dimensions.
For each dimension, you will see something like:
Relationship Satisfaction
A short description of how satisfied you currently feel, along with examples of what people in similar ranges often notice in daily life.
Communication Quality
A sketch of how openly and constructively you usually talk, plus where misunderstandings or shutdowns may appear.
Conflict Resolution
An overview of how arguments tend to unfold and resolve, and whether repair and recovery feel accessible.
Shared Values & Life Goals
A look at how aligned your big-picture priorities appear to be, and where chronic differences may need more explicit negotiation.
Emotional & Physical Intimacy
Reflections on emotional closeness, affection, and physical connection, with attention to comfort, consent, and mutuality.
In addition to these previews, the full report shares:
Your result is a snapshot, taken through the lens of your current mood, context, and perspective. It can be very helpful as a mirror—but only if it stays flexible.
Think of your profile as a way to say, “Here is what seems to be happening between us right now,” not “This is all we will ever be.”
Use your results as a starting point for curiosity and small experiments, not as a verdict on whether you or your relationship are “good enough.”
Depending on what your profile highlights, it may be helpful to:
If topics like conflict, intimacy, or safety feel overwhelming, it is often more effective to explore them with professional support rather than trying to solve everything on your own.
Sharing your results can be helpful when:
You always have the right to set boundaries around what you share. You might choose to:
You and your partner currently show a strong overall fit across key areas like satisfaction, communication, conflict resolution, values, and intimacy.
The relationship may feel worthwhile, but also more effortful or unstable than you would like.
This does not mean your relationship is “perfect,” but it suggests you have a solid, reliable base to build on.