Relationship Compatibility Test: How Well Do You Fit?

This online relationship test uses 20 questions to sketch how well your current relationship fits your needs across satisfaction, communication, conflict, shared values, and intimacy. It is designed for adults in romantic relationships who want a thoughtful, research-informed check-in rather than a quick social media quiz.

What can this “Relationship Compatibility Test” help you with?

This test helps you put words to how your relationship is working right now, beyond “good” or “bad.” It highlights patterns that often stay vague—like how you talk, how you recover from arguments, and how aligned your values and life plans feel.

• A clearer sense of where your relationship currently feels strong, steady, or fragile.
• A simple profile across key dimensions such as satisfaction, communication, conflict, shared values, and intimacy.
• Gentle prompts about strengths you may be underestimating and friction points that keep repeating.
• Practical ideas for small next steps, including conversations you might have with your partner or a professional.
• A reminder that this is a mirror and a map, not a verdict on you, your partner, or your future.

What is the “Relationship Compatibility Test” about?

At its core, this test looks at how two people are doing together right now: how satisfied you feel, how well you communicate, how you handle disagreements, whether you want similar things from life, and how emotionally and physically close you feel.

Instead of trying to label you as “meant to be” or “doomed,” it focuses on real-life questions such as:

• Why do we seem to have the same argument again and again?
• Why do I sometimes feel close and understood, and other times distant or alone?
• Are we roughly heading in the same direction when we think about work, family, money, and lifestyle?

In psychological research, these themes are often studied under umbrellas like relationship satisfaction, dyadic adjustment, and couple communication. This test uses those ideas in a plain-language, self-reflection format that you can take at home, without needing specialized training to understand the results.

How is this test designed?

Theory and measurement foundations (short overview)

The test is broadly inspired by research on relationship quality and satisfaction. Well-known questionnaires such as the Relationship Assessment Scale, the Dyadic Adjustment Scale, and the Couples Satisfaction Index all examine how happy and stable intimate relationships feel, and how partners handle everyday life together. These measures consistently highlight domains like global satisfaction, consensus on important issues, communication, conflict handling, intimacy, and affection.

Drawing on that literature, this test separates relationship compatibility into a small set of practical dimensions that many couples can recognize:

• How satisfied you feel overall.
• How you talk and listen to each other.
• How you manage disagreements and repair after conflict.
• How aligned your values and long-term goals feel.
• How emotionally and physically close and safe the relationship is right now.

This is a self-report, self-reflection tool. It is not a clinical or diagnostic instrument and should not be used to make medical, legal, or safety decisions on its own.

Which dimensions does this test look at?

The Relationship Compatibility Test focuses on five core dimensions:

• Relationship Satisfaction
  Your overall sense of happiness and fulfilment in the relationship—how glad you are, most days, to be with this person.

• Communication Quality
  How openly, respectfully, and constructively you and your partner talk about everyday life and harder topics such as feelings, needs, and concerns.

• Conflict Resolution
  What typically happens when you disagree: whether conflicts escalate, get ignored, or move toward problem-solving and repair.

• Shared Values & Life Goals
  How far you feel broadly “on the same page” about what matters in life—family, money, lifestyle, work, and the kind of future you are hoping for.

• Emotional & Physical Intimacy
  How emotionally close you feel, and how well your patterns of affection and physical closeness work for both partners right now.

These dimensions are approximate maps, not rigid boxes. Many people feel “in between” on more than one dimension, and your scores can shift over time as you and your relationship grow.

How does this test work in practice?

Number of items and approximate time

The full Relationship Compatibility Test has 20 items and typically takes about 5–8 minutes to complete. Most people can complete it in one sitting on a phone or laptop.

If you need to pause, you can usually return to the test as long as you keep the page open or follow the instructions on the test platform. Any sign-in or usage limits (for example, free previews or paid add-ons) will be clearly displayed on the test page itself.

How to answer and what to keep in mind

Each item is a statement about relationship situations, and you respond on a 7-point agreement scale (from something like “strongly disagree” to “strongly agree”). There are no “right” or “wrong” answers—your responses simply indicate how often or how strongly a pattern shows up for you.

It helps to answer based on your usual experience over the past few months, not the best or worst moment in your relationship, and not the “ideal version” of yourself that you wish you could be.

Try to answer according to how your relationship typically feels day to day, not how you think it “should” look from the outside.

If any questions feel emotionally heavy, you can slow down, take a break, or choose not to continue. Your emotional safety matters more than finishing the test in one go.

How do we calculate your results? (short version)

Behind the scenes, each item contributes to one of the five dimensions described above. Your answers are converted into numerical scores, which are then averaged within each dimension to produce a profile of your current relationship experience.

No single number can fully capture your relationship, so the text of the report focuses on patterns, examples, and options rather than scores alone.

Who is this test for — and who is it not for?

This test is especially helpful if you:

• Are currently in a romantic relationship and want a structured way to check in with yourself about how it is going.
• Notice recurring patterns in communication, conflict, or closeness and want clearer language for them.
• Are considering next steps (e.g., moving in, engagement, major life changes) and want to understand your strengths and stress points as a couple.
• Enjoy using self-reflection tools as a starting point for conversation with your partner or a professional.
• Prefer a test that is research-informed but easy to read, without heavy technical jargon.

This test is not designed to replace professional help. Please do not rely on it alone if:

• You are experiencing ongoing, intense emotional distress related to your relationship (for example, persistent hopelessness, anxiety, or difficulty functioning in daily life).
• There is any form of emotional, physical, or sexual abuse, controlling behavior, or serious fear in your relationship.
• You are actively considering self-harm, harming someone else, or making high-stakes decisions that could seriously affect your safety, health, finances, or legal status.
• You feel unable to set even basic boundaries without fear of retaliation.

In those situations, talking directly with a qualified mental health professional, doctor, or trusted support service is much safer than relying on online tests.

If you are in immediate danger or thinking about self-harm, please contact local emergency services or a crisis hotline in your area rather than using online tools as your only source of support.

What will you see in your results? (preview)

Your results page does not label you or your partner as “good” or “bad.” Instead, it summarizes how your relationship currently tends to look across the five dimensions.

For each dimension, you will see something like:

• Relationship Satisfaction
  A short description of how satisfied you currently feel, along with examples of what people in similar ranges often notice in daily life.

• Communication Quality
  A sketch of how openly and constructively you usually talk, plus where misunderstandings or shutdowns may appear.

• Conflict Resolution
  An overview of how arguments tend to unfold and resolve, and whether repair and recovery feel accessible.

• Shared Values & Life Goals
  A look at how aligned your big-picture priorities appear to be, and where chronic differences may need more explicit negotiation.

• Emotional & Physical Intimacy
  Reflections on emotional closeness, affection, and physical connection, with attention to comfort, consent, and mutuality.

In addition to these previews, the full report shares:

• Strengths to recognize and protect, so you do not overlook what is already working.
• Common pitfalls and repeating loops that people in similar patterns often encounter.
• Small changes and longer-term directions you might experiment with, depending on your situation and safety.

What can you do with your results?

Treat the result as a mirror, not a verdict

Your result is a snapshot, taken through the lens of your current mood, context, and perspective. It can be very helpful as a mirror—but only if it stays flexible.

Think of your profile as a way to say, “Here is what seems to be happening between us right now,” not “This is all we will ever be.”

Use your results as a starting point for curiosity and small experiments, not as a verdict on whether you or your relationship are “good enough.”

Small actions and longer-term directions

Depending on what your profile highlights, it may be helpful to:

• Choose one small pattern you would like to experiment with (for example, interrupting a communication loop or adding a new form of appreciation) and test a gentle change over the next few weeks.
• Discuss your results with your partner, if it feels safe, focusing on shared patterns (“this is something we do together”) rather than blaming one person.
• Bring your result to a therapist, counselor, or coach as a conversation starter, especially if you are unsure what to do next or feel stuck.
• Revisit the test after meaningful changes—such as counseling, major life events, or intentional work on your relationship—to see how your patterns have shifted.

If topics like conflict, intimacy, or safety feel overwhelming, it is often more effective to explore them with professional support rather than trying to solve everything on your own.

When might it help to share your result with someone else?

Sharing your results can be helpful when:

• You and your partner are both open to reflecting on your relationship and want a neutral framework to guide that talk.
• You want to discuss your relationship with a trusted friend, mentor, or family member who can listen without taking sides.
• You are working with a therapist, counselor, or coach, and would like a concrete starting point for sessions.

You always have the right to set boundaries around what you share. You might choose to:

• Share only certain sections of the report.
• Focus on patterns and needs, not on assigning blame.
• Use the language of the test (“our communication pattern looks like…”) to keep discussions less personal and more problem-solving.

References & further reading

• Relationship Assessment Scale (RAS) overview – Fetzer Institute — Brief description of a widely used 7-item measure of general relationship satisfaction (Hendrick, 1988).
• Dyadic Adjustment Scale (DAS) – measure report — Classic 32-item tool assessing relationship quality in couples, including satisfaction, consensus, cohesion, and affection.
• Couples Satisfaction Index (CSI) — Overview of a modern relationship satisfaction measure developed using item response theory (Funk & Rogge, 2007).
• Measuring relationship quality in an international study — Open-access article summarizing how relationship quality is operationalized and measured in cross-national research.
• Relationship Satisfaction Test – Psychology Today — Example of a public-facing relationship satisfaction quiz grounded in basic relationship science.